ARE YOU A CONTROL FREAK? SAME SIS.

September 13, 2024

Hey, control freaks—this one’s for you (and, let’s be honest, for all of us)!

It’s okay to want control, but the problem? You’re focused on controlling the wrong things.

Imagine this: You’re constantly stressing over how things will unfold, obsessing over results, worrying about how others see you. You find yourself micromanaging everything—people, plans, even emotions. When things don’t go your way, you SPIRAL.

Sound familiar? That’s what control looks like, and it’s exhausting.

But what if you could let go just a little and find peace, even when things don’t go perfectly?

Here are some reasons you have control issues (yes, lowkey calling you out):

You Control Because You Want Certainty

Certainty feels safe and comfortable, while the unknown is scary. So, we try to control things—outcomes, people—that we believe can give us that sense of security, creating the illusion that everything will unfold the way we want.

You can’t control the outcome. You can’t control people. You can’t control the weather (though I know you’d love to).

So, how about we flip the script?

Instead of stressing over things you can’t control, focus on controlling your mind. Master that, and suddenly, the uncontrollable feels a lot less intimidating.

You Control Because You Want to Feel Safe

We all crave safety from harm and pain—it's natural. But eventually, everything starts to feel like a threat, and every situation becomes a problem, leaving us constantly anxious.

When you depend on the unpredictable world around you to keep you safe, you’re setting yourself up for a never-ending loop of worry.

THE THING IS: The world can get chaotic. People are unpredictable.

Control what you can—YOUR EMOTIONS.

So that you’re not relying on external factors for protection; you’re creating your own inner shield.

You Control Because You Care

We get it—YOU CARE. A lot. You care about your well-being and your loved ones. You give your best and go above and beyond at work. You want to improve your life and the lives of those around you so they appreciate and love you.

But here’s the kicker: you’re probably caring way too MUCH and neglecting yourself in the process.

Instead of stressing over every little detail or worrying about things completely out of your hands, shift that energy toward something much more important—the actions you take that contribute to your peace.

Care for your peace of mind first, and the rest? It’ll fall into place.

How Much Can You Actually Control?

When things don’t go your way, you flip out—feeling anxious, reactive, angry, like a failure. You start telling people what to do, obsessing over every detail, and it strains your relationships.

The truth is, you’re trying to control life out of fear. But how far can you really go? How much can you actually control?

True control comes from doing what you can with what you have, focusing on the process, and surrendering the outcome.

Ready to Be the Boss of Your Mind?

Control is an illusion. You can’t predict what will happen in the next second, and yeah, that’s a scary thought. So what’s the point if we can’t control anything?

Well, the truth is, the control lies in YOU—how you think, feel and act, which influences how you respond. That’s how you shift life in your favor. If you want to control life, you’ve got to control YOURSELF first.

That’s where I come in. I’ll help you become the boss of your life—getting things to go "your way" with ease and minimal effort. Yeap, that's the irony. It’s about living with less control, more clarity, and richer experiences, feeling safe, secure, and totally cared for, while turning things in your favor!

Let’s Chat!🌟

Contact me here: https://thezenmonk.com/pages/bookingnow

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