Let’s get REAL for a second. Are you truly healing, or are you just using “healing” as an excuse to stay stuck?
Yup, I said it. Some people get so comfortable in their healing process that they turn it into an endless cycle of self-pity. They find the root of their problems and just camp out there.
Here’s the tea: You might know what your problem is or why you act the way you do. Maybe you’re aware that your childhood, that breakup, or whatever it was shaped you into the person you are today. And you OWN that narrative.
But… then what? What’s next?
Knowing Isn’t Enough
You know the problem. You can talk about it. Maybe you’ve even cried over it. But when it comes to actually doing something about it? You’re still stuck in the same patterns.
It’s like you’re carrying a badge that says, “I am this way because of XYZ,” and that’s it. You’ve found the root, but instead of changing, you just sit there. You say, “Yep, life is this way because of that,” and call it a day.
But let me hit you with this: Knowing isn’t enough.
Let’s say you had a rocky relationship with your mom, and growing up, you had to yell to be heard. Fast forward to today—now, you yell at everyone to get your point across.
You know it’s a problem. You know it stems from that relationship, but when it’s time to change? You’re still yelling. Still blaming your mom, still blaming the situation, or whatever excuse comes to mind.
Spoiler alert: It’s not your mom that needs to change. It’s not the situation, either. It’s YOU.
Healing vs. Taking Action
It’s easy to find the root cause of why you are the way you are. But here’s the truth bomb: Holding on to that trauma is a choice. Yeah, maybe that trauma shaped you, but staying stuck in that pattern? That’s all on you.
Healing isn’t just about digging up old wounds and understanding them. It’s about changing your behavior when life gives you a chance to do things differently. It’s about responding and acting in new ways, even when it’s hard.
Be the Change
So, what’s the next step? You’ve got to be the change. Healing requires you to put your newfound awareness into action.
When the next confrontation rolls around, resist the urge to yell. Stop WAITING for your mom, your partner, or the world to change. The power to change is in YOU.
Want to break the cycle? Want to stop using your past as a crutch and start building a better future?
Stop blaming others, stop camping out in your pain, and start acting differently. That's real healing.
Imagine waking up feeling in control of your emotions, knowing how to respond to life’s challenges with grace, and creating nourishing relationships that lift you up. That’s what life can look like when you start taking ownership of your experiences.
In my coaching program, we’ll practice this together, building the emotional control and mindset shifts that lead to more positive, fulfilling moments. It's about becoming the BOSS of your life, making decisions that align with the peace and joy you want. If you’re ready for this… Let’s have a chat!🌟
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