Stop Playing the Victim—You’re the Boss of Your Life
Brace yourself I am lovingly calling you out here for your own sake. You're welcome.
The Day I Stopped Letting Life Happen to Me
For a long time, I had a habit—a reflex, really—of blaming my circumstances for why life didn’t go the way I planned. It felt easier to point at external things, to say, this happened to me, rather than face the hard truth: maybe, just maybe, I had more POWER than I thought.
✨ The Job That Never Happened
Picture this: fresh out of college, full of dreams and ambition, I land the perfect job. It involved travel—something I was so excited about I could practically feel my passport filling up with stamps. But that remained an imagination, my parents said NO. They were concerned about safety, cultural expectations, and all the things parents worry about.
I was crushed. In my mind, their decision had stolen my future. I felt trapped, held back, and convinced that this was the moment my career had been derailed.
But here’s what actually happened: instead of staying stuck in resentment, I pivoted. I leaned into content writing—something I could do from anywhere. It gave me freedom, flexibility, and time with my family. It was a slow shift, one I resisted at first, but looking back? I can’t imagine not being my own BOSS now. What once felt like a dead-end turned out to be the exact road I was meant to take.
✨ The Delays That Changed Everything
Then came COVID. Like everyone else, my plans screeched to a halt. Moving homes? POSTPONED. Finances? UNCERTAIN. Starting a family? Suddenly up in the air. It felt like life was happening for everyone else except us.
I spent so much time in frustration, comparing our timeline to others. I was impatient, moody, constantly caught up in the this isn’t fair mindset.
But here’s the thing about delays—they often aren’t delays at all. They’re redirections. What we thought was a setback became the foundation for something better. Instead of rushing forward, we built multiple businesses, which we realized wouldn't have happened without the ‘pressure’. We strengthened not just our finances but our mental, emotional, and spiritual alignment. We stopped chasing someone else’s timeline and started trusting our own.
And that changed EVERYTHING.
The Truth About Playing Victim
It’s so easy to blame people, circumstances, or life itself for why you’re not where you think you should be. But here’s the TRUTH:
It’s not about what happens to you—it’s about what you do with it.
When you stay STUCK in blame, you can’t see what’s waiting for you on the other side. You let excuses and FEAR keep you from creating a different path. But when you shift your perspective, everything changes.
You might be thinking, “I’m not playing the victim.” But here’s the thing—victimhood doesn’t always look obvious. It disguises itself in everyday thoughts and choices:
✨ You blame your parents for how you were raised but never take action to heal or grow beyond it.
✨ You jump from one relationship to another, hoping the next partner will finally make you happy but never thinking about the role you play in making a relationship successful.
✨ You hate your job but tell yourself you’re stuck because of money, security, or fear—so you stay miserable instead of exploring possibilities.
✨ You let other people’s opinions dictate your choices—what you should do, who you should be, what’s “acceptable” to them.
✨ You feel anxious about the future but keep feeding the same thoughts that make you doubt yourself instead of taking actions towards building the life you want, convinced there's nothing you can do about it.
✨ You dwell on past failures, using them as proof that you’ll never succeed, instead of seeing them as lessons.
SOUND FAMILIAR? These are all ways we unknowingly give our POWER away. Instead of stepping into the driver’s seat, we let past experiences, other people, or circumstances tell us what’s possible.
Why Taking the Wheel Matters
Here’s why this “work” is important:
If you don’t take control of your thoughts, emotions, and actions, someone—or something—else will. You’ll live reactively, constantly at the mercy of what happens to you instead of creating what happens FOR you.
And the thing is, NO ONE is coming to save you.
Not your PARENTS. Not your BOSS. Not your PARTNER. Not even TIME.
You are the only one who can decide to break the cycle, shift your MINDSET, and start leading your life with purpose.
If you keep waiting for life to change before you feel HAPPY, SECURE, or FREE—you’ll be waiting forever.
THE GOOD NEWS? You don’t have to wait. You can choose to take the wheel, RIGHT NOW.
And I know—it’s easier said than done. But guess what? You don’t have to do it alone. That’s where I come in. Think of me as your personal pit crew, making sure you’re fueled up, tuned in, and ready to take the wheel like the F1 champion of your own life. No more backseat driving. It’s time to HIT THE GAS.
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