Girl, This Is Why You’re Not Happy—Let’s Talk About It
I am not here to call you out, but to let you know that I get it. If you’re feeling stuck, drained, or just plain meh, it's time to know what's really going on and what can we do about it.
Let’s dive into why you’re not happy and how we can change that, okay?
You Wake Up Already Overwhelmed
Sis, the first thing you do in the morning is check your phone. Admit it. You’re scrolling through texts, emails, and that endless to-do list like it’s your job.
And before your feet even hit the floor, your brain’s already spiraling with worst-case scenarios and tasks you don’t even want to do. This is why you're already exhausted and out of it before breakfast.
You Distract Yourself Instead of Facing the Real Stuff
Netflix marathons? TikTok rabbit holes? These are not breaks, you’re not relaxing—you're using it to escape the thoughts that you've been avoiding.
You are hoping it would drown the noise out, only to realize it comes back to haunt you at 3am.
You Think Emotions Are Weakness
We were taught that emotions make us weak, but you're not a robot. You’ve been pushing your feelings down, thinking they don’t matter or won’t change anything.
But eventually, they bubble up, leaving you carrying this heavy weight and a cloud over you.
You Tie Your Worth to What You Achieve
Let’s take a moment to talk about that ever-moving finish line. You worked so hard and achieved your goal, but instead of celebrating, you find yourself already worrying about the next one.
Why is that? Maybe, deep down, you’ve come to believe your worth is tied to how much you accomplish.
But the truth is, your value isn’t something you have to earn. You are worthy just as you are. ❤️
You Rely on Others for Happiness
You’re out here bending over backward to make everyone else happy, thinking their smiles will fill your cup. But what happens when they don’t need you? Or when they don’t react the way you hoped?
You’re left feeling empty, because girl, happiness doesn’t come from people-pleasing.
You’ll Rest Later… But “Later” Never Comes
You keep saying, “Once I get through this, I’ll rest.”
BUT, there’s always something else.
You've made everything or everyone else matter MORE than your wellbeing
You’re Chasing Happiness in All the Wrong Places
The promotion, the paycheck, the relationship—you’re convinced the next big thing will finally make you happy.
But every time you reach the goal, the high fades, and you’re left wondering, “Is this it?”
You Expect Life (and People) to Go As Planned
Oof, this one’s tough, but stay with me. You want life to go your way, and when it doesn’t, you’re MAD at the world.
You expect people to act how you want, and when they don’t, you’re triggered.
Sis, that’s not how happiness works.
Sometimes, it feels like happiness is just out of reach—tied to a change in circumstances or someone else’s behavior. “If only this were different,” you think, “then I’d finally be happy.”
But when we place our happiness in something outside ourselves, it becomes FRAGILE. Even if it brings us joy for a while, what happens if it changes? Our happiness goes with it.
What if, instead, you could nurture happiness from within—something steady, something that’s yours no matter what happens around you? You deserve that kind of peace. 💛
Here’s the Truth: Happiness Is an Inside Job
I know that sounds cliché, but it’s the REALEST advice I can give you. Happiness isn’t something you find in a paycheck, a milestone, or another person—it’s something you build within.
It is a skill—something you create every day. It grows from the stories you tell yourself: your thoughts, feelings, and actions. These shape how you respond to life.
If the stories you tell yourself are unkind or untrue, life can start to feel heavier than it needs to. But here’s the good news: this is something you can change.
This is the work we will do together in my upcoming FEEL GOOD ON DEMAND Program launching this January! 🎉 - to train this skill so that you can be the CEO of your happiness no matter what happens out there.
Your peace is PRECIOUS—far too valuable to hand over to other people or situations. You deserve to keep it close and nurture it 💖
This program is all about embracing that feel good life and stepping into the best version of you for 2025 ✨
💡 And of course, I’m all for giving you OPTIONS, So…choose your vibe, you can either do:
- Group sessions for community support 👯♀️
- Private coaching for one-on-one guidance 💬
✨ Early bird pricing is open until the end of this year. Starting January, we’re rolling into normal pricing—so don’t miss out!
Let’s work on this together. Feel your feelings, celebrate your wins, set boundaries, and stop chasing validation from the world.
Happiness isn’t “out there,” babe—it’s already inside you, waiting for you to let it shine.
💌 Contact me for more info and let’s get that glow-up started. Your best year yet is waiting! 🚀: https://thezenmonk.com/pages/bookingnow