I STAY A FEW DAYS WITH MY IN LAWS AND PARENTS, WHENEVER MY HUSBAND TRAVELS.

Some people find it cute, some find it odd.
And I get it cause it's unconventional.

But here's how we make it work 👉

 

I know it’s not something everyone gets.

Which is why I genuinely feel blessed that I’ve been able to build this kind of comfort with both my parents and my in-laws — to actually want to spend time with them.

And these moments don’t come around easily as life gets busier, so while I can, I want to be there.

But let’s be real — this didn’t magically happen or come effortlessly 💛

 

 

I know this may ruffle some feathers.

• Because yes… some of you don’t have it this way.
• Some of you are dealing with parents or in-laws who are genuinely difficult, draining, disrespectful, or simply not safe to be around.

It takes TWO to clap, YES.
BOTH sides need to adjust, YES.

And no, it’s not always possible in every home.
But YOUR ENERGY influences the dynamics more than you know ✨

 

 

Most conflict — especially between generations — is a clash of perspectives:
different beliefs, fears, expectations, ways of life.

• And the unwillingness for those involved to shift it,
• Find a common ground or 
• Be at peace in each other's differences.

So this was the work we had to do together…

A LOT of shifting perspectives and uncomfortable, honest, yet compassionate conversations.

The elders have wisdom, while it may not always work with today's time…

But you? You have the awareness and resources to do things differently 🌱

 

 

Because as much as you wish they would change or understand you… that can’t happen if you’re still showing up the same way you always have.

So this is an invitation to notice YOUR ENERGY AND INFLUENCE 🌟

 

In those moments where you want to complain, explode, or shut down —

can you choose to respond differently?

 

Like asking…

• Can I shift my perception — even slightly — or understand their perspective enough to let go and find peace in our differences?
• Do I really need my guard up right now, or can I soften and respond clearer, calmer, or kinder?

 

 

Because if the wall is already up, nothing gets through — not love, not clarity, not healing.

And again — I know some parents and in-laws are truly toxic, abusive, or completely shut off.

In those cases, your boundaries are valid and needed.
But even then… the anger, the resentment, the frustration — that’s the part you need to work through within yourself.

Not for them, but for YOU

 

 

Because when you understand the truth — that they come from their own unhealed experiences, their own fears, limited exposure, outdated beliefs — their behavior becomes less personal.

You understand that they are trying their best with what they know.

Not excusable. Not to condone.
Just… understandable.

 

From that space,

• You can hold your boundaries without hatred.
• You can choose acceptance instead of resentment.
• You can protect your peace without chaos.
• You can forgive them, while also standing your ground with love. 

 

Why should this matter to you NOW? 👇

 

Your relationships impact YOUR HAPPINESS. Period.
Your marriage, kids, home environment and mental and emotional health.

On top of that, your children will watch how you treat their grandparents — and one day, they’ll mirror that back to you.

 

• So before you judge them…
• before you assume the worst…
• before you let your unresolved anger spill into your present —

what if you choose to shift your energy?

 

Understanding how to shift your energy without losing yourself is a skill that will help you…

• Build more harmonious relationships where you feel safe and grounded in being yourself.
• Handle discomfort and anxiety around certain people that trigger you instead of shutting down or exploding
• Express your needs, even say “no” without fear or guilt
• Enjoy more presence and warmth in your relationships instead of coldness, reactivity, and pain.

 

I’ve seen marriages heal, in-law relationships soften, parents reconnect, and whole homes become more peaceful simply because one person decided to shift their perspective and approach.

 

This is the work we do in Think Better.

 

Don't wait any longer — be the one that changes things.
Because the longer you wait, the harder it will be to heal.

 

You and your loved ones don't deserve that.
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