You just believed other people’s stories about who you’re allowed to be.
You believed other people’s opinions matter more than yours.
- That celebrating yourself makes you “too proud.”
- That being humble means dimming your light.
- You were told confidence is arrogance.
- You were praised for being the quiet, good girl — not the bold, loud, self-loving one.
So you apologize for taking up space and being yourself.
You’ve surrounded yourself with people who can’t handle your light,
so you dimmed it so they would feel comfortable.
You do it to fit in.
- To be liked.
- To stay “safe.”
You took on stories that were never yours:
- what beauty means,
- what success looks like,
- what being “enough” should feel like.
You believed you had to be perfect to be worthy.
- To earn love through achievements.
- To fit in to belong.
So now…
- You overthink everything you say.
- You downplay your wins.
- You wait for permission to show up.
- You make yourself small in rooms that need your voice.
- You care about what people think.
- You depend on external validation to feel better.
You call it “being humble.”
But really, it’s fear.
- Fear of rejection.
- Fear of being seen.
- Fear of being misunderstood.
You’re just scared of what your confidence might trigger in others. ⚡
You don’t lack confidence — you lack self-love.
You don’t need to find confidence.
You need to stop living under someone else’s definition of who you should be.
You need to stop believing bullshit stories that were never yours to begin with.
You were never born unconfident.
You became that way — slowly, quietly, through stories that weren’t yours.
Stories that said:
✨ “Don’t be too loud.”
✨ “Stay humble.”
✨ “Good girls don’t show off.”
✨ “You have to earn it.”
✨ “You’re only lovable when you’re perfect.”
Confidence isn’t a feeling that appears out of nowhere.
It’s a byproduct of self-trust — of finally saying, “I’m done playing small.” 💥
You keep waiting for confidence to show up — but it never will until you stop waiting for permission to be you and accept every part of you — even the messy, loud, wild, brilliant ones. 🌿
And that takes awareness.
To see how long you’ve been judging yourself before anyone else even had the chance to.
To realize how much of your life is shaped by trying to be likable, acceptable, or “perfect.”
That’s what we do inside Think Better — we uncover your stories. 🪞
- The one that made you believe you’re not enough.
- The one that keeps you anxious in rooms where you’re meant to shine.
- The one that stops you from taking opportunities, speaking up, or feeling good in your own skin.
Once you see the story — you can finally rewrite it.
And when that happens, confidence isn’t something you chase.
It’s something that naturally shows up.
There’s 1 spot left for this round of Think Better — your private space to stop hiding, stop apologizing, and finally see what happens when you own your truth. 💫
You will gain the tools to make your confidence PERMANENT.
So if you’re tired of “faking it till you make it,” and you want to finally feel confident without forcing it, come talk to me. 🤍
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