Don’t get me wrong, physical abuse is brutal.
It can destroy your safety, your body, your sense of peace.
But with physical abuse, you know you’re being hurt.
You can see it. You can point to it.
But when someone emotionally manipulates you?
You don’t even realise it’s happening until you’ve completely lost yourself.
Until you start…
Questioning everything — what’s real, what’s not, whether you’re the problem.
Apologising for things you didn’t do.
Walking on eggshells just to “keep the peace.”
Believing that love has to hurt, or that choosing yourself makes you selfish.
Until one day you look in the mirror and you can’t even recognise yourself anymore.
They…
- Tell you what you should or shouldn’t do.
- Isolate you from people who could remind you of who you were before them.
- Know exactly how to poke your insecurities.
- Guilt-trip you for having needs.
- Call you crazy for having boundaries.
- Make you question your own memory, your own worth, your own reality.
- Disguise control as care.
And lovebomb you so hard it hides the abuse.
“Who else would love you like I do?”
That line right there? That’s how they keep you trapped.
And the scariest part? You start to believe it.
You convince yourself it’s not that bad.
- That maybe they’ll change.
- That you’re strong enough to handle it.
You tell yourself, “maybe this is just what love is.”
But slowly, piece by piece, you lose your spark.
- You start filtering every word, every move, every outfit.
- You stop laughing as loud.
- You stop speaking as bold.
- You stop being you.
That’s the real damage — when you don’t even need them to control you anymore,
because the voice in your head already does it for them.
There’s a part of you that relates to this.
That quiet story in your head convinces you it’s safer to stay where you are than to face what’s out there.
The voice that says, maybe I don’t deserve better.
That’s the part they feed off — the doubt, the confusion, the self-blame.
Because deep down, you’re afraid you’re unlovable.
Or that the love — as toxic as it is — is the best you’ll ever get.
But it’s not love. It’s control.
💥 Breaking free begins with the way you think — the story you keep telling yourself about who you are and what you deserve.
That was S’s story.
She came to me lost in that cycle — unable to leave, ashamed, and scared to trust herself again.
So we worked on it together — we broke down the patterns, the thoughts, the fears.
She learned how to see the situation for what it really was, not what her guilt and fear made it out to be.
And little by little, she found herself again.
That’s why she joined Think Better.
Because she was done being powerless in her own mind.
She wanted to understand why she kept attracting the same kind of people, why she kept doubting herself, why she couldn’t walk away sooner.
And that’s where everything changed.
Because once you start thinking better — you start seeing better.
- You see the manipulation for what it is.
- You see your options.
- You see your power again.
And that’s exactly what this space is for — to untangle what’s really going on in your head and make sense of it without shame.
- To see possibilities instead of pain.
- To rebuild the version of you who knows she deserves peace, love, and safety.
So if something in you feels this, don’t ignore it.
This isn’t just another “self-help” thing — this is your lifeline back to you.
Join Think Better, a 4-session coaching journey — not because you need fixing, but because you’re finally ready to stop letting pain run your life.
This isn’t about a one-time breakthrough — it’s about healing it from the root.
👉 DM or comment “Think” or click the link to book.
Because every day you wait is another day you let someone take your spark away.
And I know you’re done with that.