You think saying knock on wood when something good happens is protecting it.
But what you’re actually doing is reinforcing FEAR
Because the hidden meanings behind that phrase are:
- Joy isn’t safe
- Good things don’t last
- People aren’t genuinely happy for you
- Others can steal or ruin what’s good
- You’re not fully worthy or deserving of good things
- Envy is more powerful than Universe's protection
- I’m lucky now, but it could be taken away
- Being “humble” means never celebrating openly
- Something bad is expected to follow something good
And unconsciously, you’re also projecting that fear onto others — assuming nazar and bad intent when they share good things.
Why should this matter?
Because you already know this:
Your beliefs create your reality.
Not in a woo-woo way.
In a very real, neurological way.
Your brain has an in-built system called the Reticular Activating System (RAS), which literally filters reality and looks for evidence of whatever you believe to be true.
So if you believe joy is dangerous, your brain looks for proof.
You’ll either:
- sabotage something good
- or misinterpret coincidence to match the belief
A setback becomes: “See? That’s why I shouldn’t celebrate.”
And without realising it, you’re not just strengthening fear — you’re casting a shadow over your happiness.
So you end up:
- Downplaying your wins and never feeling “successful enough”
- Stopping yourself from sharing good news that could inspire others
- Bracing for impact instead of receiving with love
- Never feeling fully confident in yourself or life
- Rejecting good things (even compliments) and choosing pain in advance
- Feeling unsupported, unseen, or unsafe around people
- Quietly feeling jealous of those who celebrate openly
- Constantly scanning for flaws instead of practicing gratitude
And life starts to feel scarier, heavier, and harder —
even when good things are actually happening.
You never feel safe…
because you don’t trust life or the people around you.
The REAL problem?
We think life just happens to us.
But the truth is — we are constantly co-creating it through the stories we don’t even realise we’re telling:
- “I’m just unlucky”
- “This always happens to me”
- “I shouldn’t get my hopes up”
- “It’s too good to be true”
Every word you repeat,
every meaning you assign,
every reaction you default to
is reinforcing a reality you don’t actually want.
That’s your experience of life.
This is why “changing your life” isn’t about doing more.
It’s about:
- becoming radically aware of why you do what you do
- having the tools to challenge it
- building self-control to respond differently — even when it’s uncomfortable
I caught myself saying touchwood twice the other day while sharing something good.
And it hit me — an old pattern was trying to come back.
👉 So I rewired it in real time.
I reframed it to:
“By God's and my own grace” (because good things are allowed to happen, and I also play a role in creating them)
This is what real HEALING actually looks like.
- Not retreats.
- Not meditation highs.
- Not one-time sessions.
But catching the belief as LIFE IS HAPPENING — when you’re distracted, triggered, influenced by other people’s energy — and choosing to respond differently anyway.
And this is the EXACT work we do in The Zen Manual 🔥
Not to hype you up or pile on more routines, but to train this level of awareness so you become the CREATOR of your life.
Because if you don’t like what you’re seeing in your life — the patterns, the repeated situations, the same emotional outcomes — the science says it’s not that life is broken.
It’s the beliefs about life that are running unchecked.
This is what my clients learn over 12 weeks — because this isn’t a one-time fix.
It’s a way of being.
A lifestyle.
A state.
And I make it simple:
- Bite-sized videos you can consume any time anywhere
- Practical tools that fit anyone's busy life
- Supportive (with access to me via text)
You deserve good things and you don’t need to be afraid of them.
Other people's envy is NOT your fcking responsibility.
You show em what's possible and let em deal with their own shit.
If that’s the kind of life you want to live — one where it’s safe to celebrate, safe to receive, safe to be seen — then this work will change everything!!!
I offer a FREE 60-minute convo for a real chance to challenge yourself (and me) to prove that changing your life can be as simple as changing your beliefs.
It's only available this month so hurry the fck up, lovely people!