Why You Haven’t Been Taking Your Mental & Emotional Well-Being Seriously.
Here are the real reasons why you are taking your mental and emotional well-being for granted. And why it’s costing you more than you realize.
If you’ve been putting off therapy, coaching, or healing work, you’re not alone. Most people do. And it’s not because they don’t need it — but because of certain beliefs that stop them from taking this life-changing leap.
The thing is, those beliefs aren’t protecting you. They’re actually keeping you stuck — in pain, pressure, and stress you don’t have to carry.
So let’s talk about the biggest reasons people hold back (especially here in Indonesia), and why breaking free from them is one of the most powerful acts of self-love you can ever do.
1. 🤔 “What will people think?”
This single question has dictated far too many lives.
It stops people from living life on their terms, making them do things they don’t even want, stay in jobs they hate, marry people they don’t love, and shut themselves down just to avoid “shame.”
The stigma still lingers:
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If you seek help, you must be “crazy,” “weak,” or “broken.”
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You should “handle life on your own.”
But let’s be real: the same people saying that are usually burnt out, bitter, and projecting their stress on others.
Why? Because when you take charge of your emotions and mind, it unsettles them. It highlights what they haven’t done for themselves.
Here’s the truth: reaching out for help may feel like the most vulnerable thing you’ll ever do… but it’s the strongest decision you can make.
Because you’re finally prioritizing your inner state — not just appearances, achievements, or outer success.
And when you feel truly happy, peaceful, and present, you automatically show up better as a partner, parent, leader, and friend.
👉 If you’re constantly stressed, your family feels it.
👉 If you can’t carry yourself, how can you carry others?
2. 🔒 Trust Issues
For many of us, vulnerability feels dangerous.
We grew up hearing, “Don’t let anything leave this house.”
So we learned to distrust, to hide, to keep things locked inside.
But here’s the problem: what you keep buried… keeps you buried.
And no — this isn’t about venting to your friends or family. They’re often part of the story, and they’re not trained to help you rewrite it.
That’s why professional spaces exist.
In my coaching, confidentiality and consent are non-negotiables.
When you face your pain and come out stronger, no one can ever use it against you again.
Because you define you — not your trauma, not their words.
3. 💰 Money
Here’s a big one: the investment.
Most people are used to spending on things they can see: houses, gadgets, bags…
But never on themselves which promises feelings: peace, clarity, confidence.
And ironically, that's what you’re really chasing from investing on those “things”
Think about it, you…
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Travel → for a few days of freedom → but stress is still waiting.
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Drink → for a temporary escape → but same emptiness the next morning.
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Get a promotion → for recognition → but still feel not “enough.”
External highs fade.
But when you invest in yourself? That lasts.
You feel grounded, safe, and proud in your own skin — no matter what’s happening outside. That becomes your baseline
Think about it: you’ll spend easily on Netflix, coffee, clothes… but not on the one thing that can transform your life — you.
4. 😌 “I don’t need it. I’m fine.”
Until you’re not.
Until life throws something that knocks you down and you realize you’ve just been sweeping it all under the rug.
When your peace depends only on circumstances, you’ll always live on edge.
👉 One argument, one mistake, one stressor — and it all unravels.
Healing and coaching give you stability no matter the circumstances.
- So little stresses don’t ruin your day.
- So big stresses don’t shatter your life.
5. 😨 Fear
- Fear of what will come up.
- Fear of being vulnerable.
- Fear of letting someone in.
Yes, vulnerability is scary. But it’s also your greatest power.
Because when you step into a safe space — no judgment, no agenda but for you to WIN — you walk out lighter, stronger, clearer.
Think of it like working out: everyone needs a coach to guide, push, and correct form. Later, you get strong enough to do it yourself.
That’s what coaching is.
You learn tools, perspectives, and practices that eventually become your new normal.
And please — don’t say “I don’t have time.” You do.
You make time to scroll, binge, or socialize.
You’re just prioritizing temporary highs over permanent transformation.
Yes, it’s uncomfortable. Yes, it’s different. But that’s exactly where the breakthrough happens.
That fear you’re holding onto? That’s the wall between you and freedom.
And it only takes one brave step to break it.
Your desire needs to be stronger than your excuses.
That’s why I created The Zen Manual — a 12-week program that walks you through the six foundations of a peaceful, empowered life:
🧠 Mind - so that you can think clearly and positively without the overthinking, doubts and fearful stories
💓 Emotions - so that you don't get ruled by your mood, act with regret but honor it in ways that make you proud.
⚡ Actions - so that you finally see the results you are craving through simple practices
👤 Identity - so that you move as your most confident, real self unapologetically
🤝 Relationships - so that you feel safe and supported around your people
🌱 Energy - so that life flows without micromanaging and fighting
Once these align, everything outside starts aligning too.
BUT… if 12 weeks feels like a lot right now?
Start with just one simple step:
👉 This August, I’m offering a FREE 1:1 Private Session.
60 minutes to release pain, pressure or stress that you have been carrying far too long.
You will walk away with clarity to your next steps, and confidence to create change.
Worst case? You spend an hour gaining insights instead of watching Netflix.
Best case? You change the entire trajectory of your life.
If you’ve been waiting for a sign — THIS IS IT.