(It's time to be honest for the sake of your relationships)
The Yeller 🔊
Because you were raised in an environment where being loud was the only way to be heard.
But volume doesn’t equal clarity.
Shift your language:
Raise your reasoning, not your volume. You deserve to be heard—without yelling for it.
The Walker 🚶
Because when things got intense at home, the safest option was to walk away.
But walking away without resolution just leaves everything hanging.
Shift your language:
Yes, take space. But come back to the conversation once you’ve regulated—not to escape.
The Quiet One 🤐
Because you never felt heard growing up so you believed silence was better than speaking up.
You think talking will only make it worse—but now no one knows what you feel.
Shift your language:
Your voice matters. Gently ask for space to speak—even if your voice shakes.
The Silent Treatment 🧊
Because you were taught love gets withdrawn when people disappoint you. So you do the same.
Now, it feels like the only way to be “seen” — but not in the best light.
Shift your language:
No one can read your mind. Withholding connection isn’t power.
Speak your truth with compassion and clarity, not punishment.
The Passive-Aggressive One 😒
Because you were never taught how to express your feelings safely, so you don’t like confrontation but instead throw shade, drop sarcasm, or close off emotionally—hoping they’ll “get it.”
Shift your language:
Be honest. Be direct. You don’t need to hint or mope.
Learn honest communication so you can be understood without the mood.
The Confrontational One ⚡
Because you were taught to deal with conflict head-on. The sooner it’s out, the better.
But when emotions are high, it’s hard to say things you won’t regret.
Shift your language:
Pause before reacting.
Calm doesn’t mean passive—it means intentional.
The Aggressive AF One 💣
Because you were never released emotions healthily so it takes over easily.
You lash out, explode and sometimes become violent, before you even know what you’re feeling.
Shift your language:
Your feelings are valid. But delivery is everything.
Learn to pause, breathe, and respond—not detonate.
The Avoider 🙈
Because conflict used to mean chaos, yelling, or being shut down—so now your nervous system panics at the first sign of tension.
You’d rather pretend everything’s fine than deal with the discomfort, but that slowly destroys connection.
Shift your language:
Address the problem even when it’s hard.
Regulate your breath to feel calm and safe before speaking up.
The Deflector 🔄
Because in your home, being wrong wasn’t safe. Mistakes were punished.
Admitting fault meant shame, blame, or rejection. So now, you twist the story, shift the blame, or argue until it makes sense in your head.
Shift your language:
This isn’t about right or wrong—it’s about repair.
Let go of the ego and own your part. It won’t make you less lovable but more trustworthy.
You learned how to deal with conflict growing up.
And while it worked in your home, it’s now destroying the way you connect in your current relationships.
If you recognized yourself in any of these and want to do better — read this carefully.
Conflict is inevitable ⚔️
But how you handle it? That’s learned.
And most of us were never taught how to fight well.
What worked in your childhood home may be destroying the very relationships you want to protect today.
Because you’re still responding like you had to back then—with your parents, siblings, or whoever shaped you.
But the people in your life now aren’t them. They don’t get it.
And that mismatch? It creates unnecessary tension, disconnection, and a never-ending loop of misunderstandings.
Most people believe others need to change… but truth is, it’s YOU.
You’re keeping the pattern alive. You’re enabling the same reactions.
You’re teaching people how to deal with you by how you show up.
If you wait for others to change, you’ll stay stuck in the same dance.
When you shift your approach, you change the dynamic.
Not because you’re responsible for everything… but because you’re finally choosing to break the cycle.
It’s not about blaming yourself but about becoming aware enough to handle conflict differently so connection isn’t lost.
This is why in my 12-week life-changing program, The Zen Manual, I created an entire module on Emotions (Feel Good On Purpose) and another on Relationships (Mirrors of Love) — because they’re DEEPLY connected.
Until you learn to process your triggers, regulate yourself to feel calm, and muster the courage to express clearly, you’ll keep experiencing similar drama no matter who you’re in a relationship with.
This is where you:
🌀 Heal your conflict language so you can be heard, seen, valued and supported without the pain.
💛 Relearn connection so it becomes stronger after conflict.
🌱 Change how you relate with others and yourself so there’s less conflict to deal with.
If you are ready for relationships where you feel safe and truly loved for your authenticity — ones worth the good fight and worth changing for…
If you care about your loved ones and how you show up for them…
Let’s talk 💬
I’m offering FREE 1:1 Consult Calls to help you figure out the real root of your relationship issues and how to solve it by shifting your approach.