YOU ARE NOT WHO YOU THINK YOU ARE. You Are Who You Think You Need To Be. (Read That Again.)  Meet N 👉

YOU ARE NOT WHO YOU THINK YOU ARE. You Are Who You Think You Need To Be. (Read That Again.) Meet N 👉

🫣 She thought she was shy and an introvert.
But it's because she learned it wasn’t safe to be seen when, as a little girl, a friend pointed and laughed at her torn outfit on stage.
That moment shaped her identity into someone who avoids attention and people to stay safe.

After rediscovering herself through my program…

  • She started challenging the part of her that feared people.

  • She walked back on stages, struck up conversations with strangers at events, and approached old connections without hesitation.

One of those conversations led to meeting someone who boosted her career.


😶She thought she hated confrontation.
Growing up, her siblings talked over her, twisted her words, and made her feel like her opinions didn’t matter.
So she stayed quiet to avoid being misunderstood.
And when she did speak up, years of bottled emotion came out loud and shaky—so she was labeled “too sensitive.”

After rediscovering herself…

  • She realized avoiding confrontation was just avoiding discomfort.

  • She learned to communicate calmly and assertively.

  • She stopped fearing being misunderstood and created peace and space from people who drained her.


🫣She thought she wasn’t confident.
But her aunt once told her that sharing wins was arrogant and attracts bad energy.
So she dimmed her light, stopped celebrating herself, and stayed quiet—even when she had something to be proud of.

After rediscovering herself…

  • She redefined what confidence means; she could shine without fear, stay humble without hiding, and now inspires younger women to do the same—
    To shine with love because other people need it.


🛋️ She thought she was lazy.
She thought she was incapable and slow.
But it was actually because she was living a life that wasn’t hers, showing up every day at her parents’ shop, doing what was expected, instead of what brings her joy.

After rediscovering herself…

  • She found the courage to speak up, start a side business training young women in performance skills, and eventually took it full time.

  • She now earns more doing work that lights her up.


You’re living as who you think you need to be, not who you truly are.
You think you are this FIXED version of you—but you are A VERSION that you needed to be to survive.

Your identity was shaped by moments, conditions, and expectations.
And it influences every decision you make.
What you tolerate. What you avoid. What you chase. What you say yes to—or no to.

And every choice shapes your outcomes, your future, your DESTINY. 🌌

While this identity might have protected you before, it’s backfiring now.

Keeping you small, making decisions that reinforce the reality you want to escape.


⚙️ This is the work.

So if you want to change your DESTINY, you need to rediscover who you really are—and rebuild from there.

When you rediscover who you truly are, everything shifts.

✨ Your choices change.
✨ Your reality changes.
✨ Your life changes.

Here’s the process to rediscover yourself 👇


Who you think you are isn’t the real you.
It’s the version you created to feel safe, to belong, to survive.

The shy girl. The quiet one. The overachiever. The people-pleaser.

These identities aren’t facts—they’re stories.
Stories shaped by your past, and stories that now hold you back.

When you believe them, you make decisions based on fear instead of who you truly are.

🪑 You stay in situations you hate.
⚖️ You tolerate things you don’t deserve.
🔁 You reinforce the very life you want to break free from.


When you change WHO is running your life, you change everything.

So you want different results?
You need to SHOW UP DIFFERENTLY.

That’s what we do inside The Zen Manual—to help you strip off the labels, understand why you are the way you are, and create a new identity that works for you, not against you.

Over 12 weeks, we work through the six foundations:
Mind, Emotions, Actions, Identity, Relationships, Energy—that’s been shaping your reality, and rebuild it from a place of power.


You will:
✨ Handle challenges differently with calm and courage
✨ Say yes to things that once scared you
✨ Say no to things that drain you
✨ Take actions that support your dreams not fears, even when uncomfy
✨ Attract opportunities and people who support your growth
✨ Live unapologetically as yourself
✨ Feel in control of your life's direction


By the end, you won’t just think differently—
you’ll be living differently.

But if you’re hesitant about a 12-week program, I’ve got you.

🎁 ONLY this August, I’m offering FREE 1:1 coaching sessions so you can experience what this work can do for you, gain clarity on what is keeping you stuck and how to move forward—before you commit to a total, magical transformation that awaits you.

And meet a version of you that will blow your mind by the end of 2025.
🔮 Your future depends on the version of you who shows up today.

Are you ready to meet her?

📩 Click the link to BOOK your CALL.

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