"YOU HAVE NICE LEGS," A 50 Year Old Teacher Said To Me; A 13 Year Old Newbie. And here's what happened

🏫 I had just moved schools.
New environment, new-ish friends.

🏅 Here, sports were huge. 
Students were divided into four teams, each with its own teacher.
And I got placed in a team where none of my friends were. 

👨 My class teacher happened to also be the Coach of my team, and I wanted to request moving to the team where my friends were.

After class, when the room was empty, I walked up to him in my shorts and sports tee, and brought the convo up.
He listened, nodded, and just as I was about to leave, he stopped me and said,
"You have nice legs." ❌

I still get shivers thinking about that moment—the way my stomach dropped, the way my skin felt like it was crawling.
I didn’t know what to do or say. I just smiled awkwardly and walked away as fast as I could.
He called me back, but I didn’t turn.

I couldn’t stop thinking about it. I already had to deal with him as my teacher, and now the thought of being stuck in his team made me sick. 
So, I gathered the courage to go to the school supervisor.

When she asked why, the words just slipped out:
"Because my teacher said this to me…"

She didn’t hesitate. She said,
"Okay, I hear you. I approve your move. I’ll speak to him."

For a moment, I felt relief. 
But within days, he was GONE. 

Rumors spread fast.
And guys came up to me saying:

• "What did you do?
• How could you complain about him? He was so chill.
• Gila.. You got him sacked over a little comment?

And just like that, the relief turned to guilt.
I thought,
“What did I do? I didn't mean to get him fired. I shouldn’t have said anything. Maybe I overreacted and made my life harder.” 

I was desperate to fit in, and now I had boys whispering and friends pulling away?
I felt like I had ruined everything. 💔

But by the end of that day, something happened.

One by one, girls came up to me. Quietly. Hesitant.
"Thank you for saying something."
"He said inappropriate things to me too, but I never dared to speak up."

My heart broke—and healed—at the same time. 
I realized:
That one action… may have saved us, it may have stopped something worse. 

Why am I sharing this? 

 

Looking back, I see how that moment shaped me—and not just the trauma of it, but the ripple of what one action can do. 💫

1. We fear taking action or changing because of people.
I almost stayed quiet because I was terrified of being judged, of losing friends, of how I’d be perceived.
That fear is what keeps so many of us stuck—stuck in toxic relationships, stuck in jobs we hate, stuck in cycles we don’t deserve. 🌀

2. Little traumas STICK and influence you.
That incident made me afraid of attention, afraid of my own body, afraid to use my voice. 
For years, I felt uncomfortable dressing up the way I wanted, shapeshifted and avoided conflict.
I let fear dictate who I was becoming.

3. One action creates a ripple.
That one decision changed everything.
It scared me, yes.
But it also shifted the trajectory of something that could have been so much worse.
And it taught me that every action you take (or don’t take) creates a different reality. 🌊

And THIS is why it should matter to you.

Because right now, there is something in your life that you’re tolerating, that you’re afraid to change.
You’re telling yourself,
"What if it makes things worse? What if people don’t like me? What if I fail?" 
So you stay in the same cycles—overthinking, shrinking, people-pleasing, freaking out—waiting for something to change on its own.

But here’s the truth:
You are ONE DECISION away from a completely different life. 💥
And every time you choose fear over courage, you reinforce the very reality you want to escape. 

This is the work we do in The Zen Manual.
We strip down those fears, those old wounds, those little traumas that are still running the show.
We uncover where you’ve been handing your power away and teach you how to take it back—without guilt, without shame.

Because when you finally choose you, when you act from courage instead of fear, life responds.
Relationships shift. 💞
Opportunities appear. ✨
Peace becomes your baseline. 🧘

If this hits home—if there’s something you’ve been scared to change—let’s talk.
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Because you’re not here to keep tolerating sht*.
You’re here to change it. 
And I’ll help you do exactly that.

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