Yeap That Was An Actual Joke Someone Made About Me In Highschool, And Here's How It Played Out 👉
I had just hit my teens. I had suddenly gained a lot of weight.
My body was changing fast.
A bunch of us were hanging out, having one of those "harmless teasing" moments — everyone’s laughing, no one’s supposed to take it seriously.
Except I did.
💔That one joke deepened my body image issues, and was one of the triggers for my bulimia phase.
Not long after, I confronted my friend and told them how I felt.
And you know what he did?
More than just honoring the pain and apologizing, he gave me one of the most powerful perspectives:
"You can’t control what people say, but you can choose what you carry."
This is NOT to excuse the joke or pretend it didn’t hurt.
But it showed me what it means to build resilient skin.
Because as fcked up as some comments can be, it’s how we internalize them that really shapes us.
If you don’t have grounded self-love — that deep, unconditional love for all your imperfections —
you’ll get knocked down every time someone points out the things you’re already insecure about.
And let’s be honest, people LOVEEE pointing those things out.
You’ll always be fragile to opinions, always controlled by comments, always reacting to how people see us.
But the real power is not letting that sh*t define you. 💥
I now weirdly thank that friend (we're still great friends btw) for that one joke that I thought broke me.
Because it taught me how to own who I am.
I laugh at myself.
I embrace my flaws.
And in hindsight? It was a pretty hilarious joke, lol. 😄
And yes, for a while, I blamed that moment.
I played the victim.
But truth is:
⚡If someone’s words can trigger you, then they can control you.
⚡If someone can hurt you, shift your emotions, and manipulate your decisions —
they’ve got the power.
This isn’t about dismissing trauma.
I’m not here to say, “Get over it.”
I’m asking: how has it shaped you?
Because that moment might still be dictating how you feel about yourself, your life, your choices — even your personality, without you even realizing it.
Here's how 👇
💔 You might say “I’m shy” but maybe you were teased a lot.
💔 You might say “I’m just loud and sarcastic” — but maybe that was your defense mechanism to feel safe.
💔 You might say “I don’t connect well with people” — but maybe you just stopped trusting people after being hurt.
That’s not just personality. That’s pain disguised as “just the way I am.”
You’re living a life that may have been shaped by your wounded self — not your true power.
And that’s why this matters.
It’s not your fault.
But IT IS YOUR responsibility to shift that story and REDEFINE who you are with awareness, power, and perspective. 🛠️
And that’s the help you with —
build the kind of self-love and thick skin that lets you walk through life not giving a flying fck what anyone thinks.
Because you know who you are.
You don't need external validation to feel good, but you also won’t let one dumb comment destroy you.
So if you’re still stuck in that pain — still overthinking, still shrinking, still doubting?
You don’t have to stay there.
One powerful conversation can flip the script.
The same way it did for me.
The same way I’ve helped my clients flip theirs.
I am offering the same for you, and it’s ABSOLUTELY FREE! 🎁
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So if you…
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