Like… 👉
If you don't wanna live with your in laws, you're a rebel.
But if you do live with your in laws, you're old school.
45kg is the only definition of "healthy," but if you're heavier on the scale — even if you're lean, strong, and au natural — it's not good enough.
Married without a kid? Assumes there's a "problem" instead of a choice.
And what if it is a struggle? They still have the audacity to say “cepetan dong” 🙄
Marrying outside of "caste" or a new wifey keeping her “original” name? Wooh! Shunned!
The older one pressured to marry first, even if the younger one is ready and in love because it's ‘disrespecting the elder’ (or they'll think he's got issues)
A wife is expected to fast for her husband's “protection” yet without her, a house is not a home, even if she works. What about the devotion to her too?
A woman can’t prioritize her biz as much as her home.
Yet just a housewife? Seen as "bored and dependent".
The claim? “Upholding traditions keeps us grounded.”
Listen, if you genuinely want to do it, GREAT.
But are you aware of the things you’re forcing yourself to do without understanding why?
Because some traditions can fck you over way more than they support you, like:
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Who you marry: Choosing a guy with a bigger bank account than a bigger heart.
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When you have kids: Popping one out before you’re mentally, emotionally, or financially ready just because ‘society expects it’
- Who you trust: Wondering if your vulnerable moments are going to be spilled for laughs over chai & petho.
- How you work: Burning yourself out, losing sleep, and grinding for approval, because "success" has to look a certain way (even if it feels like sht*).
- How you show up: Not fighting back when an elder puts you down, dressing to fit in, feeling guilty for setting loving boundaries with your rentz, and the list goes on….
We never question it because of…
The guilt. The shame. The fear.
- What if you're shunned?
- Or you upset your parents… worse, in laws?
- Or you feel FOMO?
- Or lose out on love?
But by not questioning it, we are the ones keeping this sh*t alive.
Raising our kids in it and living out the exact beliefs we hated growing up.
We brown millenials got damn good at obeying, but forgot how to actually live,
then wonder…
Why are we so good at what we do and looking greatttt doing it…
but are anxious, stressed and exhausted all the fcking time?
This isn't about fighting society.
It’s about fighting FOR your own PEACE.
Because I know how depressing it can get… just "obeying" the ways.
I’ve defied some of them like : eating ALL meats, taking time to have kids and speaking up (and potentially hated for it) like this… 😅
But I'd rather be seen as a rebel and free, than be suppressed just to keep them comfortable.
And I know some of you…
Yeah you… who feel that flicker and fire burning inside you when you read this…
wants this FREEDOM too…But are afraid and don't know where to start.
So if you’re anything like me—you want to live your way, but you don’t want to be a btch* about it, and you actually want to feel supported doing it—let’s talk.
I give you a different story that’s actually possible, and the exact tools to back it up.
Like learning how to:
- Walk with your head high when the whispers start ("Who does she think she is?", "She gained weight," "Still single?") instead of running away or sulking in a corner.
- Stay completely chill when an aunty asks, "When are you getting married?" and dropping the ultimate finesse: "When God and I decide it's time."
- Tell your rentz or in-laws the truth. Communicating your desires and boundaries with kindness and clarity so they actually listen.
You won't just think differently; you'll move differently.
And you'd be surprised how often people meet you halfway when your energy shifts.
Yes, we need to uphold tradition.
But we get so mixed up on what it means to actually evolve.
Because let’s be real—some traditions deserve to be questioned!
Imagine if we didn't?
👉 Women would still be stuck "only in the kitchen" instead of being the financial powerhouses we are today.
👉 Fathers wouldn't be defying the old script to actually be present and raise their kids instead of just being a walking paycheck.
👉 We’d still be marrying strictly for family approval instead of actual love and partnership.
👉 Intelligent, ambitious, high-functioning souls who have had enough are finally prioritizing therapy and rest over the "burnout" our rentz wore as a badge of honor.
🚨 Honestly, think about the beliefs you're holding onto right now that are just making your life way harder than it needs to be.
I know it seems scary challenging it, but let me show you what happens when you choose courage… (I bet you already do, you just need the right direction and support)
Once you know how to handle yourself through that temporary fear, trigger or discomfort, life becomes permanently effortless. Trust me 😉
Ready? Start with a simple step. The right conversation.
This is what Think Better offers you.
FOUR powerful conversations with real solutions and tools to bring your best life forward.
🚨 Hurry the f up and DM me before time (and your patience) runs out! 😂